No Comments

Aaaaaaa[152] –  1.  v. to jumpstart a car with a hearse;

2. v. to believe that someone is alive in the midst of the aaaaaaaa[151] only to remember they are dead when you wake;

The young semiaaaaaaaaa[74] hated going to sleep even when she didn’t have nightmares. Each morning when she Aaaaaaa[152]ed, she felt as thought she lost her father again and again and again.


No Comments

aaaaaaaa[151] – n. liminal pre-conscious space just before waking:

In the Aaaaaaaaa[151]each morning, she looked forward to sensing her husband’s body next to hers. Gradually, she would remember his aaaaaaaa[130]. She hated this morning routine of Aaaaaaa[152]ing.


No Comments

Aaaaaaaa[220]– n. treasured memory from preaaaaaa[27]:

During the first postaaaaaa[27]year, the aaaaaaaa[80]found her Aaaaaaaa[220]s were unbearably painful.


No Comments

aaaaaaaa[80] – n. person who loses a spouse and at least one child, including an unborn child, in the same horrific event:

He wished that he could easily explain to people that he was a aaaaaaaa[80] instead of a widower so that people would be less inclined to offer aaaaaaaa[17]s about how lucky he was not to have children.

anti [185]

No Comments

antiaaaaaaa[185] – n. place where grieving is not accepted, comfortable, or safe:

After reading the aaaaaaaa[49]’s  tweet about how so much of the world felt like an antiaaaaaaa[185], she wanted to create city maps identifying all the aaaaaaa[185]’s. Imagine how lovely it would be to look up directions to the nearest aaaaaaa[185]on your phone when something aaaaaaa[12]s you in a public place.

installation based illustration available here


No Comments

aaaaaaa[185]– n. place where grieving is expected or where it is safe and comfortable to grieve:

When they happened upon a memorial for David Bowie outside his home on Lafayette Street, they appreciated having a aaaaaaa[185] both to aaaaaaa[59] and to simply let their own sorrow for other losses surface.

installation based illustration available here


No Comments

          [64]  – v. to author your own obituary:

She           [64]ed to ease the burden on her son who struggled to write confidently even under the best of circumstances.


No Comments

aaaaaaaa[6] – n. funeral or memorial ceremony for multiple family or community members:

Identifying thoughtful speakers who could offer            [4]s instead of aaaaaaa[77]for their aaaaaaaa[6] felt much more complicated than organizing her wedding.


No Comments

aaaaaa[4]– n. eulogy that evokes the uniqueness of the deceased:

The first time he heard a aaaaaa[4] instead of a aaaaaaa [29], he was astounded by its ability to make his own grief seem more logical and how connected he felt to the other mourners.


No Comments

aaaaaaaa [166] – n. unsolvable puzzle left in the wake of a tragedy:

When his wife left the house that morning, her last words were, “I will be your substitute today.” For the rest of his life, he wrestled with the aaaaaaaa [166] of wondering if his wife had some premonition that she would die and he would survive the bombing of Hiroshima.

illustrative haiku by guest artist, Mark Dimor, available here